What can you fit in a box?

This is a post I wrote the day after I came back from my 3-months in Norway, never posted it, and found it on my computer over the weekend.  Better late than never!

I plan to start blogging regularly again for 2009.  Right now, all my free time is taken spending time with my new roommate, eating my new roommate’s delicious cooking, and wishing that my new roommate and I had a dishwasher.  Two people who love to cook produce a seriously endless stream of dirty caked-on-nightmare-what-is-growing-on-that dishes, pots and pans that don’t even begin to fit in my refrigerator-sized kitchen.  

Okay, I haven’t just been sitting around eating and washing dishes.   I’m also taking a couple classes – a children’s writing course and Italian class aka my weekly massacring of a beautiful language.  I’m pretty sure I sound less Italian every week and more like a Midwesterner with a mouthful of Jolly Ranchers trying to eat a bowlful of ziti. 

Happy holidays and lots of love to you all!

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Last week as I was packing, I said to Fabio – I can’t believe that I have entire APARTMENT full of stuff back in NYC. This summer I felt like I had everything I needed

Now that I’m home though, I missing what I didn’t know I was missing.  There’s a sense of comfort you get from being around your stuff – what you’re used to.

In NYC, this means convenience. My first night back, I did what I do every time I come home. I got out and WALKED. It was a blissfully un-Norwegian hot, sunny, steamy September city heat. And everything was within footsteps. Stopped at Zabars for tomorrow’s breakfast then across the street, stopped at my regular pedicure spot. Every NY woman has a reliable Asian-run spot on her block in Manhattan. Then ordered take-out food on- line, no need to talk to a soul and crashed on my couch watching a Pay-Per-View movie eating Thai green curry chicken.

These conveniences are certainly something I could do without in a foreign country, right? Every New Yorker has to adapt to life without them when they inevitably move out to the foreign lands of New Jersey or Westchester County. Is Norway or Italy any different in this regard?

Then there’s the stuff I am missing in hindsight. Is this some kind of neurological disorder? I am back. I miss my teakettle. I miss that there’s a spot on the wall to hang my Sierra Club calendar that I buy every year. I miss my big fat, paper cookbooks. I miss my stash of greeting cards that I can sort through when someone has a birthday I’ve remembered at the last minute. I miss my Alpico plates from Zabars with the unmatching NYC bowls from Fish’s Eddy. I am so happy and comfortable to be ensconsed in all this cozy, familiar world that I am missing it in retrospect.

I especially miss my comfy bed and the four pillows I pile around me every night. 

Although last night, even the smothering comfort of my four pillows couldn’t drown out missing my sweet Italian boyfriend sleeping next to me, warm and adorable.

There’s also no replacing making a new recipe for dinner with Jen or sipping tea while she’s nursing the bean.

With a few special exceptions, my friends and family live such a distance that the relationships are portable. I hope. Because the rest of it I can put in a box.

When is a rug a doormat?

craigslist rug

I’m sick of being nice, honest and midwestern.  If you’re midwestern and NOT nice and honest, please don’t be offended by my use of the stereotype. 

I just sold a rug on Craigslist for $35.  It was posted for $50.  Here’s the dialog of the trade.  You be the judge. 

Rug-Buying-Dude: Thanks for showing me the rug.  Hmmm…it really is a very SMALL rug.  $50 is a lot…  You know, I’m getting divorced and refurnishing my whole apartment…. giving her everything. 

Midwestern-Girl: Oh really?  Well congratulations!  So what do you think is fair?  Make me an offer.

RBD: Oh!  I thought you’d feel bad for me!  How about $30?

MWG: No, I’m divorced too.  It’s the start of a new chapter in your life.  Really!  How about $35?*

RBD: (Puzzled pause.)  Why didn’t you counter with $40?

MWG: Because I felt bad…

RBD: Ha!  So my story worked!  Do you have change for $40?

MWG: No.*   Oh, just kidding, I actually do. (reaching into my back pocket)

So let’s review.  I had 2 opportunities to stay firm and get more money, as indicated with asterisks* in the above dialogue.  I waffled on both.  WHY AM I SUCH A WOSS?

Granted, the real reason that I ”felt bad” is because I KNEW that the rug was heavily used and only semi-vacuumed, unlike MY craigslist story of rug newness and recent professional cleaning.  I felt that the rug wasn’t really worth what I was asking.  Furthermore, I had just eaten a large quantity of garlic in my fresh pesto dinner and was self-conscious of my deadly garlic breath talking to this craigslist dude.

So I lose because HIS fake story trumped MY fake story?   Because I’m unable to fib, even in a craigslist situation where it’s totally expected and possibly acceptable?   grrrrrr

Going 100% digital

Today’s accomplishments:

1) Completed uploading entire CD collection to computer.
2) Sold 90 CDs for meager but exciting profit of $112.22 on spun.com.  Was not able to sell Justin Timberlake’s Justified, Arrested Development (the group not the show), or Ravel’s Bolero.
3) Disposed of 30 cassette tapes excluding ancient recording of Lynn, Jen and Emily singing John Denver’s Country Road at Troy High’s All Night Graduation party (1989).  I don’t have a tape player so this retention is inexplicable.
4) Took out garbage.
5) Completed no real “work” related to corporate paycheck.

Next step, organization and shipping of the contents of approximately 20 photo albums and 3 boxes of hard copy photos to online photographic scanner.  Paper be gone!!

The piece de resistance…  the glossy paper cookbook stronghold.  This digital thing might just turn out to be all talk.

I can’t read, Liz Lemon!

Two days ago I was sure there was a reality TV show competition going on at our local supermarket, ICA. The market was PACKED in the middle of the day on a weekday and people were running around like mad in the freezer section with shopping carts, trying to snatch up as many frozen food items as possible. The checkout lines were horrendous with all these cart people and I was pissed off that I had to wait my turn behind a woman with a full cart AND hand basket full of frozen cod, salmon and fish sticks.

I was thinking, wow, these Norwegians really like their frozen seafood.  And then I thought, maybe a really big storm or the apocalypse is coming and that’s why they’re stocking up on frozen food items.  That’s what happens every time there is a blizzard watch or hurricane warning in NYC.  Bread and milk fly off the shelves.  Maybe Norwegians stock up on fish instead.  Maybe I should be buying more than 6 strips of bacon and some olive oil today.

Anyway, I left the ICA, the sun rose the next day, and I forgot all about the incident… until I passed the supermarket again.  Absolute SCADS of people in the produce section.

I still can’t read Norwegian, but I finally interpreted what the advertisements outside the store were saying.  “40% off all fresh fruits and vegetables on Thursday.”  So I went in with the rest of the hoard and picked up some tasty discount fruits and veggies. 

All Norwegians speak English, but everything, and I mean EVERYTHING, is written in Norwegian and rarely translated.  I now know what it’s like to be illiterate.  I have considered starting to sign my name with an ‘X’.  Although I love foreign languages and have learned some Norwegian basics, I struggle with motivation since this impractical language is only spoken by 4 million people – half the population of New York City. 

That, and I’m still trying to crack the code on the language my boyfriend speaks - Italian.  One foreign language at a time, please.

When you’re illiterate in Norway, every day holds mysteries.  I can now relate better to the ancient Egyptians, unable to explain the incomprehensible sunrise and sunset, they determined that Ra, the Sun God, pulled a chariot across the sky while wearing a sun disk hat on his head.  I’m sure it seemed logical at the time.  Everyone needs some order and explainations in their universe.  When I was unable to explain the frozen foods frenzy, I determined that there was a reality TV show competition going on in our local ICA.  It could happen.

Today’s ICA offering is 40% off the entire Santa Maria Tex-Mex product line.  Authentic Mexican food did not survive the long trip across the Atlantic.  I cannot bear to witness to carts full of powdered, fake-Mexican caca, so I’m boycotting ICA for the day and cutting up bargain fruit salad at home instead.

ICA in the Aurlandsfjord

Photo of another ICA on a fjord, from the fjord tour I took this week. 

It seemed like a really exotic place for an ICA.

The death gong of summer

I really hate my job. 

And that is what I would like to talk about, but it’s not productive, so I’m going to talk about photography in a minute.  But seriously.  I f-ing hate it.  The return date for my leave of absence was set at Sept 1st.  Suddenly my company realizes Sept 1st is a holiday and now they are trying to make my return date Sept 2nd so they don’t have to pay me for the holiday.  Bastards.

Additionally, I just found out I didn’t get a raise this year for the first time EVER IN MY LIFE.  Yes, I know I’ve been on leave of absence for the last 3 months.  So that means none of the satisfied clients and late nights and weekends worked in the first 9 months of the performance year count?  I see.

Furthermore, I am mad at myself because I’ve totally dropped the ball on one of my Goals for 2008: Find a new job that provides some level of motivation and inspiration.  I haven’t used my Red Le Cruset braising pot yet either, but I am confident that the pretty pot and I will be fast friends upon my return, so that goal is no biggie. 

I did have a revelation on the train from Boston to New York earlier this month.  I was force-feeding myself this book on climate change and realized I don’t want to go back to school for environmental studies.  I thought I did.  But I realized I can be conscious of not trashing the planet on a daily basis and that’s enough.  I’m still reading the book.

As the train passed Mystic, Connecticut and some other really adorable New England towns and marshes filled with herons, I had another insight.  I thought about how much I really enjoyed tending to my boyfriend’s tracina wound in Tuscany this summer.  I enjoyed every bit of it – popping the blister, trimming the dead skin, analyzing how best to treat and bandange and extract the sand getting trapped inside the sore.  (Tip: do not walk on the beach with an open wound.)  There’s a reason I majored in Biology.

So I have narrowed my future job list down to physical therapy, nursing, massage therapy, and fake-Italian zonzelle shop owner.  I am totally serious about all of these.  I’ve never seen the yummy zonzelle in the U.S. but I think Americans are being deprived of this super yummy Tuscan delicacy.  Dough fried in olive oil (so it’s healthy!) that can be:

     - eaten plain and hot, 

     - stuffed with pancetta, mozzarella, etc and then fried and eaten oozing and hot,  or

     – fried and afterwards spread with nutella and eaten hot

Shit, I just drooled on the keyboard.  It can also be eaten cold, but as you can see, I recommend eating it HOT.  We’d either sell them out of a truck like the Wafels people - maybe get lucky with a spot in the Village, SoHo, or Williamsburg – or out of a tiny shop on the Lower East Side.

mmmm zonzelle

Despite my enthusiasm for the zonzelle shop, it is more likely that I will go into something medically related. 

I’ll have to talk about the photographs tomorrow.  I don’t want to taint them with today’s angry ranting.

Dried fish snacks at midnight

The midnight sun makes you feel like you’re on drugs. 

How else could the sky look as clear and blue as noon, while the light is yellow like a sunset?  This phenomenon happens in the arctic latitudes around June/July when the sun never dips below the horizon.  There’s 24-hours of daylight…spectacular, inexplicably magical, really-beautiful-but-I-wish-this-stupid-hostel-had-curtains-so-I-could-sleep daylight. 

I’m not sure how it feels for other people, but I believe our midnight sun euphoria was heightened by the Amazing Race challenges we had to surpass to get to our arctic sun-watching destination:

- Tempermental arctic weather forecast:  We obsessively stalked the forecast for two weeks on three websites before booking our flight the day before departure. As our plane departed, the forecast was for cloudless skies.  By the time we arrived several hours later, massive arctic cloud banks were gathering exactly where the sun would be dipping that night. 

- Location, location, location:  Immediately upon arrival in the Lofoten Islands, we realized that we couldn’t see the midnight sun from the southeastern side of the mountainous island where we booked our stay.  The sun dips in the northwest.  Yes, we were in precisely the right place notto see the sun.  And there was no rental car agency in the town of A i Lofoten, population 11, where our ferry docked. 

These are the mountains I'm talking about.

- Youth hostel, old people:  We booked our 2-night stay in a youth hostel, the only room available in high season.  Fab and I are both 37 years old.  A youth hostel is alsoprecisely the wrong place to be.  The hostel had bunk beds and handkerchiefs for curtains.  I repeat, handkerchiefs for curtains.  In the land of 24 hour sun.

As fake Amazing Race contestants, we were ready to kick some ass to see the midnight sun.  We were going to see the damn sun.  No matter what.

First off, we needed to get to the midnight sun watching spot.  Then we would deal with the clouds.   Our options: 

a) spontaneously hike 7 hours over a mountain pass to a spot on the uninhabited, north-facing other side of the island, hike back to hostel at 1am

b) bike 34 kilometers each way over above-pictured mountainous arctic terrain to northern beach, or

c) take a bus (which stopped running at 9pm) to a town 64 km away to pay exorbitant fee for the last rental car within a 3 island radius.  Car only available for 18.5 hours. 

We selected Option C.  And as we drove up at 11pm to our midnight sun watching spot, the clouds parted.  I swear. 

Okay, we’re not meteorologists and we were being a little paranoid.  I told you, the midnight sun is like drugs.  The cloud banks were never actually where the sun was dipping.  We were looking in the wrong spot.  But still.

The light is inexplicably beautiful and makes you do strange, cheesy things.  I was moved to take a picture of a white horse in a midnight sunny meadow, munching grass in the golden sun.  I’ll post it later, so you believe me. 

A little before midnight, a retired Norwegian fisherman and veteran of the north sea oil rigs stopped by our watching spot for a chat.  He was a tough salty sea dog.  Like all Norwegians, he spoke nearly perfect English and was extremely kind.  He offered us some of the dried cod he was carrying around in a plastic bag, a popular local snack, eaten right off the skin of the fish.  He left a little before midnight, giving us the rest of the fish, bag, skin and all, to snack on til til the sun started rising again. 

12:30am Lofoten

Serves me right for sleeping in

Let me preface this adventure from my recent trip to England with the fact that I absolutely adore Kayte and her family and they are welcome in Oslo, New York, whereever, anywhere, anytime. 

 

- Kayte, forgive me for using your freaking adorable kiddies as fodder for my blog and more so, for the really hideous vocabulary lesson. 

- To all others, Kayte’s kiddies are under normal circumstances phenomenally well-raised, well-behaved and well-mannered British children who respond with statements like “Yes please, Daddy” when asked if they would like some milk.  

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I woke up to the sound of muffled children’s voices.  My ears were stuffed with foam earplugs.  More murmuring and giggles.  Behind the my thick, dark eye mask, I pretended to still be asleep in the guest bed at the far end of Jaego’s room. 

 

The 3-year old was usually up early and it sounded like Jess, Jaeg’s 2-year old sister, had waddled in to wake up her brother and play.  The kids whispered more in quiet voices, then scampered out of the room.      

 

I could still hear them talking softly and laughing in the hallway outside the bedroom.  I figured their mom, my friend Kayte, was still sleeping, so I pulled out my earplugs to keep an ear on them, thinking, it’s great that they can play together so nicely.

 

 Jess is a bit difficult for me to understand if she’s talking right to my face, much less in the other room, but I thought I heard her say, “Those yinn’s socks?  Those yinn’s socks.”  She pronounces my name with a silent “L”.  Why was she asking about my socks out there?  I thought I’d left them by the bed.  Oh well, maybe the kids had taken my socks out of the room and were playing with them.  No biggie. 

 

 Foreshadowing:  It is worth noting that Jess is into all things girly, shiny and pink.   My socks were none of these things.

 

I dozed in and out of sleep for the next 30 minutes or so, then decided to get up for good, carefully tip-toeing through the jungle of Jaeg’s plastic knights, wooden castles, and shoes toward the door.  My ugly green socks were still next to the bed.

 

Through the doorway, Jaeg’s round grinning mug in is the first thing I see.  His chubby round head is covered with the usual tousled mop of sandy blond curls and of course, he’s wearing his red and blue Spiderman pajamas, but there’s a new, thick coating of black paste covering his ruddy cheeks, nose, and forehead.  His bright blue eyes and grin smiling broadly behind the black muck. 

 

I am moderately confused.  “What’s that on your face?” I laugh, squatting down to touch some of the black crust on his cheek and hear a giggle to my right, coming from the bathroom. 

 

There’s Jess, her face marked with the same black crud in a slightly more sophisticated pattern kind of like a cat.  A big black Cheshire grin, black nose and long streaks of black goo in her strawberry blonde hair.  She’s wearing her pink flower nightgown, which also has the black mystery substance on both sleeves, and is holding a roll of toilet paper.

 

My eyes travel underneath the white pedestal sink to my paisley toiletry bag.  It’s overturned and is barfing all the airline regulation sized bottles out onto the white tile floor.  Half of them are open and oozing onto the tiles.  It kind of looks like each tiny bottle was set with a mini explosive device to detonate at the same time. 

 

 “Jesus Christ!” I curse in a whisper, trying not to wake Kayte.  The first bottle I see is the waterproof mascara tube, lying open on the orange bath mat, which is now covered with a waterproof pattern of black smudges.

 

“Shit!”  With each new discovery, there’s a new expletive, none of them fit for the kids’ ears.  My toothbrush is laying on the white floor tile, the bristles coated in mascara like thick eyelashes. 

 

 “What the fuck.”  There’s my lychee-scented body cream, antioxidant nighttime facial lotion, and SPF 45 sunscreen moisturizing the white porcelain of the sink and wood-patterned toilet seat. 

 

 “Why??”  My tiny bottle of prescription eye drops is also open, it’s pink lid off and mascara caked around the eye dropper.

 

Still squatting, I spin on my heels to face them.  I’m not a parent, but I guessed that I needed to make it clear that this was not okay… before I took photos of the hysteria for posterity.  “You knew this bag was mine.  You know you shouldn’t have touched something that wasn’t yours.  I think you owe me an apology.”  Jaeg’s lip trembled and a meek “sorry” emerged from the blackness of his face.  Jess just stared with big eyes, blinking through her cat mask. 

 

I reached into the bag for the unopened eye-makeup remover.  “So you know this stuff is permanent unless you use a special cleaner.  It will stay on you all day, all night, even in the swimming pool, forever…  Do you want to me to use the special cleaner to take it off?”  Big vigorous nods and wide blue eyes from both of them in response.

 

I started the scrubbing process with Jess, too young to know how to apologize, but old enough to know how to find and open everything with a pretty, girly pink lid within reach the bathroom. 

 

 

  Jess, suspected instigator and pink predator

 

  Jaegs, accomplice with alleged weapon of destruction

 

You never get a second chance…

  These are my first impressions of Norway and Norwegians.  Due to the rule of first impressions, they are irreversible and there will never be another opportunity to change them. 

 

Impression #1: Norwegian women are beastily strong. 

 

As I boarded my flight from New York to Norway, I was heaving to get my carry-on into the overhead bin.  I’d spent the night before strategizing on how to close it, since it looked a lot like a boa constrictor trying to swallow a dinosaur.  At the final hour, my dear friend Jen ordered me to take OUT my new red Le Creuset cast iron braising pot, which weighs approximately 40 pounds all on its own.  They do have pots in Norway.  But even without it, the suitcase was bursting and unwieldy.  A tall, blond Norwegian woman in her 50s saw me straining to lift it and intercepted me mid-heave.  “I’ll put that up for you” she said, taking the bag out of my hands before I could protest.  Then she flung it into the overhead with the ease of a WWF wrestler hurling an opponent across the ring.

 

I was impressed.  But it takes more than a single incident to make an impression on me.  It takes TWO.

 

After the flight, I retrieved my two additional checked bags at Oslo airport’s baggage claim.  To be clear, they were both large, but one of them could literally fit my 6’2″ brother in it.  He’d need to be chopped up, but still, he would fit.  We later dubbed this one, The Coffin.  The Coffin required payment of penalty fees to take its overweight ass onto the plane.  I could barely even think about lifting it. 

 

At the airport, Fab advised me to put all 3 of my bags on a luggage cart and wheel them to the train.  After the train ride, he would meet me at Oslo station where we would take a cab to the apartment.  Fabio had dealt with masses of luggage during his own move and would never leave me in a lurch, so even though I’d never dealt with behemoths like this on my own, I was sure I could manage. 

 

I purchased my train ticket to Oslo at one of the kiosks because I really loathe talking to people if I can have a computer do it for me instead.  The entire transaction was in Norwegian.  I don’t speak Norwegian.  I don’t read Norwegian.  I wouldn’t have even known the words were Norwegian, and not Ukranian or Hindi, except that I knew for certain I was in Norway at the time. 

 

Apparently, I bought the wrong ticket.  I was supposed to buy a ticket for the express train, which efficiently leaves every 8 minutes and has no steps to climb up.  Instead, I purchased a ticket for the local train, which leaves once an hour and has 4 king-kong monster steps leading up to the seating area.  Me and The Coffin looked up at the towering steps in defeat.  But the smiley Norwegian train conductor came to my rescue!  HE would put the bags onto the train.  I hoped he would take them off as well, but when I arrived in Oslo, neither the train conductor nor my honey were anywhere to be found.

 

As the train idled at the station, I managed to drag my carryon and suitcase #1 down the steps.  ker-plunk.  ker-plunk.  ker-plunk.  ker-splat.  Two down, but The Coffin was still on board. 

I waited for the other passengers to disembark, The Coffin leering at me from the top of the steps.  Disembarking, a sweet, pixie-ish Norwegian asked – Was this bag mine?  I said ’Yes’, as she made a move to lift it.  ‘No!  NO!’  I shrieked, ‘Don’t try!  It’s TOO heavy!  You’ll hurt yourself!’  To my astoundment, she gracefully picked up the monster truck sized luggage and placed it on the platform beside me. 

Fabio arrived mere seconds later with beautiful pink lilies, but sadly for him, not too late to deal with The Coffin.  After the cab ride, our apartment was on the 4th floor…  no elevator.   We could only hope to run into a Norwegian woman on the first floor of our building…

 

Supernanny to the rescue

 Let’s play the word association game.  I say black, you say white.  I say palm, you say tree.  I say Norway, you say fjords, Viking or reindeer.  Whatever you say, I know you’re not gonna pull the words hot, sultry or steamy out of your word toy box. 

 

Oslo, Norway is my home for Summer 2008.  Fabio, my Italian boyfriend, has seduced me into joining him here, with his impressive spaghetti-twirling skills, wonderful sense of adventure, and willingness to joke around with me about things like foreign good-luck pigs and gnomes.  I adore him.

 

For my second weekend in Oslo, my sweet man invited me to join him for a business trip to Madrid.  I hesitated momentarily, thinking 7 days might be too short for even me to be bored and ready to leave my new city for a weekend trip to Spain.  But then Google Maps showed me the way; Madrid is nowhere near the Arctic Circle while Oslo is its next door neighbor and BFF.  Even a third grader could tell you it was gonna be a helluvalot hotter in Madrid than Oslo in June, and I like me some summer heat. 

 

The day of my departure, irony struck.  As I departed from Oslo, it was 82-degrees Fahrenheit; the hottest place in all of Europe.  Disembarking from the plane in Madrid, my pinky toes whimpered against the chilly wind in my open toe sandals.  It was blowing and in the 60s.  The grey Spanish clouds were laughing so hard they nearly wet their cloud pants.

 

Regardless, Madrid was approximately 1000 times more beautiful than I remembered.  Our weekend was freaking fiesta-riffic, despite needing to wear 5 of my cotton t-shirts, 2 sundresses, a headscarf and all my jewelry to stay warm on the way to the Prado. 

 

Fabio and I were returning to Oslo on different flights.  The business traveller was flying direct, while I had a short layover in Germany.  In the meantime, a cold front was colliding with a warm front directly over the airport in my connecting city of Frankfurt, forming a big, fat storm sandwich with a side of fuck-me french fries. 

 

Consequently, my flight to Frankfurt was delayed, circling Frankfurt until the final Oslo flight for the night had left without me.  So I arrived in Frankfurt alone and flightless, knowing only enough German to ask for a piece of cheese really nicely and then politely thank someone for it.

 

My expectations at this point were set to American standards.  I anticipated a troubled night of semi-sleep on sticky vinyl waiting area seats, clutching my luggage fearfully to my chest, preceded by begging airline reps for a $5.00 dinner vouchers valid at any fast food restaurant in the airport.  I clearly hadn’t much experience with the German stereotype of efficiency and preciseness.  I’ll tell you how it really went down.

 

A makeupless, stern, yet somehow kindly, fraulein met me at the airline customer service desk.  She tidied up the mess like a German Supernanny.  I’ll take care of all this for you and you had better like it, leipshin.  She had answers to all my questions.  Of course the airline would provide a hotel for the night.  And of course transportation would be included.  How dare you even ask about dinner and breakfast… Of course!

 

Not believing the fraulein supernanny, I frantically purchased an emergency bag of salt-and-pepper potato chips on my way to the bus, thinking I could ration 10 chips for dinner and the other 10 for breakfast so I wouldn’t have to consider devouring a bar of bathroom soap or downing a travel-sized shower gel.

 

A cruise ship-sized luxury bus with plush seats was waiting outside to shuttle little me and the rest of the international refugees to the hotel.  In just 10 minutes, I was at the hotel, checked-in by 15, and by 20 I was nibbling on a salad of fresh mesclun greens with smoked salmon and cucumber in the hotel restaurant. 

 

I fell asleep with a smile of my face snuggled beneath a puffy down duvet after a squeeky clean hot shower.  So happy to be stuck in Frankfurt and not Bangledesh or Tuscaloosa. 

Shake and Make! A Valentine’s Day post with a reference to pork chops

  Take two 30-somethings, a lot of words and ardor, put in a Ziploc bag, and shake…  what do you get?  A mess of cataclysmic reactions… to things that aren’t happening now… but happened to each person in the past.  Honestly, it blows my mind.  You need a degree in psychology to grasp what’s going on inside a relationship.  Or a training manual using a lot of one syllable words.

But forget all that – the main point is, that after a week of depression and thoughts of bagging the whole thing, we are going to try to make it work!  I mean, really make it work by finding a way to live and date in the same city!   

I had slipped into a bottomless funk about the distance due to combination of things:

1)  One too many times, a friend asking… is Fabio considering moving to the US or are you considering moving to Italy?  And me answering, why no… he’s moving to Norway. And them giving me a look, like I’m the biggest idiot in the world!  And trust me, I felt stupid too!

2) It’s also been killing me that nowadays, we talk the most while I’m at work in a break room with 10 strangers and co-workers walking in and out.  I love talking to my honey - it’s typically a highlight of my day and full of smiles – but I when I looked into the future, I couldn’t imagine sustaining our relationship on “break room” conversations conducted between a dirty microwave and a vending machine.  

3) And finally, this.  The very special thing about a monogamous relationship is that you get to have sex with that person and only that person, in addition to exchanging warm cuddles and sweet kisses.  If you are long-distance, you hardly ever get to do these things.  Phone sex does not count.  It sucks.

Love over the telephone just isn’t living!  There was no light at the end of the tunnel of long-distance dating.

But God bless the Italians.  I have the most romantic boyfriend on the planet.   His last email concluded with kisses and the words I most wanted to hear, pulling me out of a grey fog of sadness in my office in the financial district.  ”I want you to know that I want to see you and want to understand together what’s next….” 

Time to make something good.